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IF I WERE IN TIMES OF PROPHET SALLALAHU ALAIHI WASSALAM, WOULDNT I WANT TO MARRY A MAN WITH SUCH CHARACTER AS OF MY PROPHET SALLALAHU ALAIHI WASSALAM!?

BISMILLAH IRREHMAN IRRAHEEM 

From the past couple of days, I was thinking about how to start writing again after such a long break! I wasn't sure what to write either until yesterday, a very dear friend of mine gave me this wonderful topic to write on. She didn't do so on purpose! It just happened to be something we were talking about which forced me to inquire, research and then write about it! And as can be seen in the title of my post, that is what it is!

When we want to get married, or we are married but struggling to keep our relationship intact, we are often given the examples from the life of our Prophet Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam! Why? Well, of course because He was a great mercy to mankind and not only we, the Muslims, but many non Muslims have looked at him as an example of the best possible person on the earth and between the mankind! There never was and never will be a person like Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam on this earth! That said, let me get back to my purpose of writing. I don't completely agree with the above mentioned title for post. That is because not only in the times of Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam but even now when we pursue a life partner, IF we have studied the Seerah of Rasoolullahi Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam, we would want to marry someone with at least some characteristics of our Prophet. At the least, we would want our spouse to KNOW the Prophet and TRY HIS BEST to follow the guidance of Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam. And as a husband, my Prophet was the BEST to his wives!

 We often tend to make such horrific statements at times because we haven't studied the Seerah ourselves that we may end up regretting what we said badly once we find out the truth. Alhamdulillah for still having that immense love for my Nabi Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam and my mothers (wives of the Prophet). May Allah only increase my love for them. Ameen thuma Ameen.

I was shocked to hear from someone very dear to me, someone for whom I want the same outcome as I want for myself at the end of this life inshaAllah, I want to meet that someone in Jannah! First, I want to Copy-Paste something from www.islamqa.com about Khadija R.A. my respected and most beloved mother, Alhamdulillah! Here it goes: 

Many of my friends have asked me about having Affairs with there opposite sex.........Now I have told them this is Haram in Islam but they give me the reply by saying that Khadija (R.A.A.H) fell in love with out Prophet (S.A.S) And had married him. I have read a lot of books and even on the net i havent found any information about how they were married and all i knew was Khadija (R.A.A.H) SENT a message though a Slave girl who was the cousin of our Prophet (S.A.S). And Abu Talib (R.A.A.H) uncle of our Prophet (S.A.S) accepted the offer and wed them. Now i wanted to know that have they (Prophet (S.A.S) and Khadijah (R.A.A.H)) ever met prior to marraige?. 

Praise be to Allaah. The reports of the seerah (Prophet’s biography) indicate that Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid (may Allaah be pleased with her) was a determined and intelligent woman, and she was also rich and had several kinds of trade. The men of her people were keen to marry her. She did not engage directly in trade herself, rather she used to employ men to work on her behalf.

News reached Khadeejah of the honest and trustworthy Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him); she heard a great deal about his honesty and trustworthiness, so she wanted to hire him to work for her and do trade on her behalf. She sent someone to him with an offer of work, and he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) agreed to that. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out to do trade with the money of Khadeejah (may Allaah be pleased with her), and there was with him a slave of Khadeejah’s whose name was Maysarah. Maysarah saw the signs that happened to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) whilst travelling, and that amazed him, so he started to tell his mistress Khadeejah about everything that he had seen. 

For example, when the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to the city of Busra in Syria, he stopped in the shade of a tree, and one of the monks said to Maysarah, “No one ever stops under the shade of this tree but a Prophet.” And Maysarah used to see two angels shading the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when the heat of the sun grew too intense. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came back from that journey, and he had made far more money in trading for Khadeejah than anyone else ever had before. 

Khadeejah was impressed with the personality of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and she wanted to marry him. So she sent her friend Nafeesah bint Maniyyah to tell the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about that. He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) agreed, and the marriage of Khadeejah (may Allaah be pleased with her) was arranged by her father Khuwaylid, according to the most sound reports, as mentioned by the scholars of seerah. 

From the above it is clear that there was no inappropriate relationship between the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and Khadeejah (nay Allaah be pleased with her) before he married her. The morals of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) were sound and he lived a virtuous life; Allah protected him from everything that may have detracted from his message or that was contrary to modesty and chivalry.

There seem to be a couple of misconceptions in our people about Khadija RA which lead them to think Khadija RA 'wasted' her life and it was only comprised of sacrifices and thus, we come to the conclusion that since she sacrificed her entire self to get the pleasure of Rasoolullahi Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam, it is not worth to mention her ever as an example for the Muslim women. 

From the above answer given to this person, a couple of points are made clear about Khadija RA: 
1. She did not do the trade (her primary business) by herself. Rather, she hired people to do it for her. 
2. She did not have to 'give up' her 'career' to be married to the Prophet Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam. Rather, the responsibility of her business was only lightened from her shoulder when she married the Prophet Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam. 
3. You will not find in the entire Seerah that Khadija 'gave up' trade after marrying Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam so there is no need to 'ever' bring that upon our tongues, of which we have NO knowledge. And here, we are talking about someone very dear to our Prophet Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam, someone he loved more than any other wives, that even Aisha RA was jealous of Khadija RA when she was not even alive anymore.
4. Let us assume for a moment that Khadija RA gave up her business, her career and everything, and only had so many children with the Prophet and then she died. So she basically sacrificed and gained what?  

• Had she even given up her career for the Nabi Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam, she would still have gained the pleasure of Allah Subhana Wata'ala, which means the goal of life would be accomplished after gaining the Raza of our Rabb! Isn't that our goal of life? To gain the pleasure of Allah! To become of the women of Jannah! 

posted by Allah's Slave @ 6:40 AM